Stay Calm

Your kids will echo your mood.

Since most children with special needs react badly to stress in their environment, particularly stressed-out parents, staying relaxed and low-key is one of the best things you can do to keep your child’s behavior in line.

Praise your child

Remember to reward good behavior – giving signatures randomly when you catch him/her being good is a good way to stay consistent with the system of praise he or she is used to.

Contracting/Beware of bribes.

  • You may be tempted to offer some big reward for your child’s good behavior at a family get-together, but that can backfire. The fear of losing that much-wanted thing may add to your child’s stress overload and actually bring on even worse behavior.
  • Some kids may talk themselves out of wanting the reward because they feel so incapable of providing the required self-discipline. And once you’ve lost that incentive, things can go downhill very quickly.
  • Small spontaneous rewards during the course of the event are often more effective, because they reduce stress and improve mood. Then, if your child does pull it off, you can always give the big reward later with much praise and encouragement.

Fidelity of treatment

Children will perform best when all of their environments have the same expectations, consequences, and structure

  • Use TLC language
  • Have the same expectations for behavior